In some California divorces, the children may actually have the most difficulty when it comes to dealing with major changes in their family and the structure of their home life. While in the past the children would usually live with their mother and see their fathers every weekend or every other weekend, parents are becoming more innovative when it comes to parenting time and child custody arrangements.
For example, some former couples are trying a child custody arrangement known as nesting. For this, the children stay in the family home and the parents take turns living there. The idea behind this arrangement is that the children retain some stability and security. Some couples rent another home or apartment nearby that can be used by both parents when they do not have the children.
There are some major advantages to this type of custody arrangement. First, it gives the children a sense of permanence as they do not have to pack up and move every week. Their routine stays consistent and they get to spend equal amounts of time with their parents. However, there are also some downsides. Taking care of household chores can be difficult and the children may not accept that their parents' marriage is over, especially if the parents are able to cooperate well.
While nesting may be a great option for the children, this custody arrangement only works if both parents are fully able to cooperate with each other. In some cases, other custody arrangements may work better depending on the family's situation. If parents are willing to compromise, a family law attorney might recommend the mediation process, in which a neutral third party attempts to assist the parents in reaching an accord.